I am human and so are you.

Why it's okay to not be OKAY.

Sometimes life just doesn't go the way we want it to go.

And when that happens, it's okay to be sad.

To be disappointed.

To feel anguished, aggrieved, overwhelmed or exhausted.

To even feel a little depressed too.

I don't know where the expectation that you had to be "okay all the time" came from for you.

Perhaps it was your upbringing, perhaps it's the people you grew up with or spent the most time with.

Perhaps it was your parents or teachers, or the various social environments you spent time in.

That somehow told you that if you're "not okay"...

Then something must be wrong with you.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being not okay at all.

Nor is there anything wrong with feeling any of the above feelings.

Because really, there is not a single person in this world who is happy all the time.

We all go through ups and downs for a reason.

The ups remind us of the experiences that makes our life happy, exciting and worth living.

Reminders of the presence of an ongoing life that needs to be celebrated and cherished.

And the downs are signals that something we care about deeply needs to be addressed.

Signals that we are meant to feel, to turn towards, and to process.

And whether they point towards big things or little things, they are still all things that matter to us.

And that's why we cannot ignore these feelings and pretend to be okay when we are really not.

We need to take the time to figure out why we feel this way. Then to realign and refocus on what is truly important to us.

It's a process of figuring things out, learning, adapting.

With no timeline other than your own.

So it absolutely doesn't matter if it takes a day, a few weeks, a few months.

It's still okay to not be okay.

It just means that you're human, a human who craves for a life worth living and existing in.

And a human that deeply cares.

All the while relishing life as an experience, and the whole range of transient, beautiful feelings that we feel inside.

Isn't that magnificent? Being such colourful people?

I think it is.

Take care,

Hernping

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